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Becoming a mum: with Abbie Bishop

Life is so hard and full of so many challenges. We never know what we’re going to go through. For me personally it’s been such a hard and long journey to becoming a Mum.

In December 2017 I had a miscarriage and lost a baby. Then in August 2018 I had an ectopic pregnancy, and didn’t know about it until I was 12 weeks into the pregnancy. I nearly lost my life and had major surgery that lasted 4 1/2 hours. After the surgery I got told that having children was probably never going to be an option for me.

However me and my husband kept trying and hoped that one day we would have the opportunity to be parents

Even the doctor said it would probably take a year to get pregnant and most likely we would have to go through IVF. However the first time me and my husband tried for a baby we got pregnant. I was so overjoyed and couldn’t believe it! Even the doctors were shocked. That was just the start of a long journey to having my little girl.

Over the course of nine months I was in and out of hospital. My epilepsy got worse and I was having seizures throughout most of my pregnancy. I had a seizure and fell down the stairs, because of this I ended up breaking my ribs. Around two weeks after that fall I had a blood clot in my leg. And amongst all of this I ended up for around six months of my pregnancy being in a hospital bed. The doctors were always on the edge of a decision whether or not to bring my little girl into the world early.

At 36 weeks my waters broke but I didn’t go into labour. I waited a week and then was induced. Believe it or not I would say that giving birth was the easiest part of my pregnancy! I asked the midwife that if I could have anything happen during giving birth it would be not to have a seizure and to have the chance of skin to skin with my baby when she was born. To me it was a miracle that I got both of these things. Holding my baby girl for the first time is the best memory I will ever have.

I don’t know whether I will have another baby but all I know is I’m so thankful to have my little girl Joyce today.

I’ve met so many Mums that have been through so many challenges. From being a single mum, to being pregnant and having a health conditions, to having babies born with medical conditions and also Mums who have sadly lost their babies. All of them, even though they have gone through so much, have come out the other end so strong and thankful.

It’s always hard, no matter what. But for me it has been so worth it.

Whether pregnancy and the journey of becoming a Mum has been the biggest struggle or the easiest thing you’ve ever done, remember that your baby knows you as the one thing they can always rely on. They are a part of you and think you are the most amazing woman in the whole wide world. To every Mum out there, you are doing a great job!

Written by Abbie Bishop

First time mum from Bradford

Instagram: @mummyrattle

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